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Pet Peeve- Be where you say you are going to be

I am notorious for not being where I say I am going to be… on-line that is. And it annoys me to no end that I do something I find absolutely frustrating in others.

I am trying to juggle Instagram, a Facebook page, Youtube (no I am not posting videos yet, but I do have playlists and people I follow), my blog (Thank you again for following me), Twitch (again a future project), writing my stories and life. Yet alone the few chats I am involved in across the board.

No wonder fellow gamers and bloggers are not always where they say they are going to be. However, IF (the biggest word in the dictionary) you plan on making a career in the public eye. BE where you say you are going to be and WHEN.

Make sure you are not biting off more than you can chew. It drives me nuts when I don’t have a pic before I leave the house for IG. I am getting better understanding if I at least post once a day I am good. That is not something anyone expects of me and I do not have a ton of followers (seem to flit between 60 and 64) lol.. I just expect it of myself and if I post more good.

I finally have Facebook figured out, post on Mondays, after I post to the weekly blog on WordPress. And I have Wednesdays figured out on WordPress, of all things I am a few weeks ahead. Now I should be able to catch up to NaNo and Twitch and my pics and … of all the dreaded things the emails and my commitment to a 12 month program where I am very far behind. I have finally caught up with Absolute Write, realizing it much like InstaGram is a Daily activity.

Now for my rant, if you post you will be online Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. You had best be. It is a proven fact: start how you intend to go on. If you want to build a web presence you cannot slack off, you cannot without being on your death bed not show up. If you are sick…. post you will return as soon as you feel well. Enlist in others to help you, and if you have enlisted in others to help you: DO not leave them wondering WTF??

And if you are a follower- be where you say you will be. Those you follow rely on you too. Be supportive and understanding that there is a life outside of the virtual world. I often fail at this, thinking I am the only one. Then I do a quick reality check and realize that I have let one my many media balls fall to the floor. I have some to go pick up after I get done writing this blog.

Social media much like losing weight or gaining muscles only happens IF you work at it. I am working at it. I very much would love to have enough going on the next few years that I could retire early and take a walk-about England. There are a few villages I am in search of… Who doesn’t dream of making it big? But that comes at a price – commitment, accountability and honesty.

I admit I have failed in the past in making sure I am here. I have failed in making sure I show up on chats that I have committed to. No more. If it means waking up a little earlier, staying up a little later, than I shall. If nothing else I owe my followers the common courtesy of being where and when I say I will be.

I also owe my family and friends (virtual and corporeal) the courtesy of being where I say I will be. This is something I am working on. Not a New Years resolution. But a NOW resolution.

(at the time I write this my followers hover at 99… Thank you)

Follower Etiquette

I have come to the conclusion with little input from others that I really do not know what a “Follower’s Etiquette” entails.

Have you come across someone you follow and you enjoy following them, but they seem to have disappeared?

Now in this day and age where so many physical boundaries are breached by the internet, what is the proper way to ask if they are okay?

That to me is the question of the day. How does one say ‘Hey everything all right?” knowing that you are virtual strangers and that how someone appears online/in text is not always who they wholly are. But that it is a faucet of them that you get to see. Sometimes it is the best, and sometimes it is the tip of the iceberg.

Can people get to know each other via electronics? While I would not consider this friend, a strong acquaintance is not the strongest word either. Can chat reveal a person to another.

In this day and age, is it safer to just wait. To say “Hey, I thought about you the other day” when they show back up.

The same could be said for distant friends, distance making it hard to hunt them down. To make sure they are okay.

And this could just be me. I’ve been this way forever. There are just some people some faces you come to rely on to improve your day. Hoping that in someway you in turn provide some inspiration to them or someone else down the road.

But at what point is too much, too much? I am afraid I do not know. Etiquette was never my strong suit, I have been the bull in the china shop barging in. With a gruff attitude, and an offbeat humor that does not translate well in person let alone on the internet I can be off-putting.

There is the key point, am I wondering because I am being my true nosy need to know everyone’s business but my own self? Or am I truly hoping everything is okay? In this case, I can say a little of both. I do hope that all is well and that it truly is a case of life just running its course and things happen.

Then if that is the case, updates are needed.

Oh, that is so the pot calling the kettle. I am now making myself laugh. I myself have been known in moments of frustration to just disappear off  the internet. So I guess in a way karma has come back to show me that it is a let down to followers to just disappear and not say ‘Hey, I am taking a momentary hiatus”.

at the same time to remember, in life’s disappointments to come back, come to where like minds are. Where people have experienced the same life choices and let downs or up lifts. While I now have answered some of my previous questions, I still do not know if it is appropriate to ask, “are you okay?”

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